I do not know why, but for a strange reason I feel compelled to blog about this issue, or rather this anecdote that happened just now. Maybe it was after reading sis’ entry. But what happened really set me thinking. ( I refuse to cut and paste the entire anecdote from my sis’ blog, because I want to prove to her that I can type in perfect English too.)
Anyway, my family and I just reached home after celebrating my dad’s birthday at a restaurant. So my sis, who for some strange reason is addicted to driving(maybe she should consider being a taxi driver. Haha) once again was driving. When we entered the car park, there were two lots left. One was at the corner, such that if u want to park, u have to go all de way out, turn the car around, and u-turn all the way into the lot. The other one, coincidentally, was the handicap lot.
So my sis with her limited experience in driving, wasn’t allowed to park in that teeny-weeny lot, due to my parents’ incessant nagging. So she parked the car into the handicap lot. There was this ang moh who happened to be parking his car also. So when we went reached the lobby and went into the lift, my dad saw the ang moh and decided to hold the lift door and wait for him. I even went to the extent of pressing his floor for him, as a polite gesture. So this ang moh just went thank you, and kept smiling at us in some sinister way, as if he uncovered some dirty little secret of ours. When the lift door closed, he finally decided to open his golden mouth.
Ang moh: so u all parked in the handicap lot eh?
Dad: err yeah, sorry.
Ang moh: what if there’s someone handicapped who needs to park in the lot?
Dad: oh no, I don’t think so. We’ve lived here for two years and we haven’t seen any handicapped resident or visitor. (I live in a condo by the way)
Ang moh: well, what if there was a handicapped visitor?
Dad: well, I don’t think so, especially not at this hour. (it was almost 11pm)
Ang moh: There was another lot in the corner. Fact is, you would be causing great inconvenience to a handicapped visitor, just because you people are too LAZY to park in that last lot.
Dad: yes sorry sorry.
Ang moh: (smiling) you know, I hope you people will become disabled one day. ( saunters with head held high out of the lift door that my dad foolishly held open for him)
Hey, true we are in the wrong for parking in the handicap lot when there was another lot available. But chances are if we took the last lot, another car would come in within minutes and take up the handicap lot! It has been tried and tested many times that if we reached home after 11pm, all the lots in that sheltered car park would be gone, yes including that handicap lot.
I am not trying to justify our actions. In fact, I fervently told my dad and sis that we were in fact in the wrong and we sort of deserved the chiding, be it from anyone. But hey, as my dad said, just because 100 odd handicapped people decided to drive, the govt stated a regulation that every single car park must have two handicap lots. Is that not a bit excessive, when not all the 100 odd handicapped people are wheelchair bound? One lot in a hdb estate costs 100 plus a month. How much money are we letting down the drain, when we could just make the car park more wheelchair friendly by building a few more ramps? Sure, I may be selfish in saying that we shouldn’t care for these needy people, but then again, if they are driving, how handicapped can they be? There’s this guy at ju shi lin monastery, whose wheelchair bound if I did not remember wrongly. I don’t see any special arrangements in the monastery for him? Hey, he parks his car on a damn steep slope in the monastery everyday. If he can do it, so can the rest of them.
Practicality aside, a lot of these ang mohs are hell hypocritical. Maybe I am over-generalizing, but as sis and dad reiterated, more often than not, they do not practice what they preach. In terms of nature conservation, “refined” mannerisms, cultured society and so on. Many of them live in their picture perfect ideal world, where its sugar and spice and all things nice, where all the boys are boy scouts and all the girls are brownies/guides. So when they see something that does not look right to them, they feel a compelling moral obligation to poke their nose into other people’s affairs, to “rectify” the problem, make them see light. Their myopic vision does not allow them to see that they too are sinning in one way or another. ‘They criticise the Japs for killing dolphins when they go tuna-fishing. But what about those times when the submarines from them western countries give off so much ultrasonic waves that the dolphins are driven to shore?’ (quoted from sis)
I agree with what the chancellor in star wars said. Everything is a matter of perspective. Its how you view the issue. So we should not impose our ideas and beliefs on others, whatever the intention, because there is no such thing as wrong or right.
And finally, the fucking bastard just had to end of with by cursing that we become handicapped next time. Hello, do you eat beef? I hope you become a cow in your next life so that people can slaughtered and people can chew you up to fill their stomachs. I am not denying the fact that we are in the wrong, but that does not give you the right to play god and decide that we should become handicapped in future. Total fucker.
K I just deleted one whole chain of unglam language. I don’t want my blog to be peppered with vulgarities just because of some smart-aleck who decided that he’s perfect so he has the authority to criticize people less perfect than him. We should instead pity the poor fellow, for he does not own a mirror-he lacks the ability to reflect on himself, and also because he lacks a brain, to think thru his words before he decides to unleash such a venomous curse on someone whom he has never met before in his life.
And ya, if my family members are reading this, sorry for siding with the ang moh momentarily, cause I honestly think that we were in a way wrong also, for parking in the handicap lot.
If you people are still with me, and wanna know what exactly is tension of opposites, and how is it related to the above issue, please read Tuesdays With Morrie. Its a damn nice and thought-provoking book.